Which is the Most Blessed Marriage?
Beliefs, Scholars September 14th, 2011
Rasulullah (Sallellaho alaihe wasallam) said:
إِنَّ أَعْظَمَ النِّكَاحِ بَرَكَةً أَيْسَرُهُ مَئُوْنَةً
(مشكوة المصابيح)
The most blessed marriage is the one in which expenses are few, and which is simple.
Instead of wasting the money on unnecessary expenses, it is better to give the same money to one’s daughter, to one’s son-in-law, to be used to purchase carpets for a musjid, or to pay for the expenses of a student. In short, consult your shaykh and spend it in some correct avenue. The walîmah meal which is Sunnah is to be from the boy’s side – to whose house the bride is going.
But today, the opposite is taking place. The girl’s side is spending thousands to feed and entertain the thousands of people who come from the boy’s side. If a person has five daughters, he estimates his cost at 600 000 rupees. Consequently, he steals, robs, and accepts bribes.
Moreover, it is not necessary for the boy’s side to have such a large walîmah for which a tent has to be pitched, 10 000 people are invited, and hundreds of thousands of rupees are spent to feed the guests. A walîmah can be fulfilled by just five people as well. If any family is not invited, it has no right to complain.
Karachi is a very large city [so it is understandable if someone is not invited]. In a small town like Madînah, a Sahâbî – Hadrat ‘Abdur Rahmân ibn ‘Auf (radhiallaho anho) did not invite Rasulullah (Sallellaho alaihe wasallam) to his walîmah. Rasulullah (Sallellaho alaihe wasallam) saw the yellow coloured effect of fragrance on his clothes and gauged [that he just got married]. So he asked him: “Did you perchance get married?” But Rasulullah (Sallellaho alaihe wasallam) did not feel offended in the least for not being invited to the walîmah.
My shaykh, Shâh Abrârul Haqq Sâhib rahimahullâh, gave his daughter in marriage to a very noble family. Professor Hakîm ‘Irfânullâh Sâhib was a member of the Consultative Assembly of Deoband and a senior hakîm (Islamic physician) of Aligarh Tibbîyyah College.
Hadrat said to him, “You must come with your son and one other child.” In other words, no more than three people may come from Aligarh to Hardoi. Thus, the father must come, the son who is going to become the son-in-law must come, and he may bring one additional child. No fourth person may come. This is what you call simplicity. But today people say that if we adopt simplicity ‘our nose will get cut’ [we will be humiliated].
Listen, the ‘nose’ is under Allâh’s control. If you opt for simplicity, you will be honourable in the sight of Allâh Ta’ala.
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New Book: Quran Pak mein Sharab ke Haraam hone ka Sabut
Beliefs, Book Reviews January 5th, 2011
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
A very special book has been published on www.khanqah.org.
Name: Quran Pak mein Sharab ke Haram hone ka Sabut
By: Arif Billah Hazrat Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (db)
A very special book about “The Quranic Proof for the Prohibition of Wine”, and it’s Hazrat wala’s eager desire to spread this book to everyone through out the world. This book is being translated in many other languages on urgent basis and will be published inshaAllah very soon (Updated: 5th Jan 2011 – 9:30 pm, After Isha Bayan)
Command of Beard
Beliefs, Sunnats November 11th, 2010
Recently, a sticker was published from Khanqah Imdadia Ashrafia by the call of Hazratwala (Shaikh ul Arab Wal Ajam, Arif Billah Hazrat Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb damat barkartuhum), about the importance of beard in shariah and clarifying a common misunderstanding with regards to the law pertaining to the beard. It states:
COMMAND OF BEARD
To keep beard equal to one fist in length is not just Sunnah, but it is Wajib (Mandatory).
To shave beard or trim it less than one fist length is HARAM (strictly prohibited).
(Behisti Zewar, Chapter 11, Page 115)
Beard should be of one’s own fist length from all three sides (right, left and below the chin)
Shaikh ul Arab Wal Ajam, Arif Billah Hazrat Aqdas Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb damat barkatuhum
Published By: Khanqah Imdadia Ashrafia, Gulshan-e-Iqbal, Karachi, Pakistan
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Important Passage about Ramazan’s Blessing
Beliefs, Ramazan August 12th, 2010
An important passage from the Book – Tohfa Mah e Ramzan by Shaikh ul Arab wal Ajam, Arif Billah Hazrat Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (db).
There are 2 major spiritual diseases which restrict us from the Blessings of Ramazan
1. Evil Glances (Badnazri)
2. Backbiting (Gheebat)
May Allah Ta’ala save whole muslim nation from all such diseases.
Do read complete passage @ Tuhfa Mah e Ramazan
Do read complete passage @ Tuhfa Mah e Ramazan
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Dua for Protection from Shirk
Beliefs, dua, Quotes May 15th, 2010
It has been narrated by Hazrat Abu Bakr (radhiallaho anho) that Rasulullah (sallellaho alaihe wasallam) said:
“Ascribing partners to Allah in my Ummah is much more hidden that the pace of an ant crawling upon a black stone.”
(Kanzul Ummaal vol.2 pg.816)
Shirk is a very hidden thing. It enters the heart very silently and very few are saved from it. Upon hearing this, Hazrat Abu Bakr (radhiallaho anho) asked in a frightened manner, “How can one be saved from it?”
Rasulullah (sallellaho alaihe wasallam) said: “Should I not show you such a supplication (dua) that if yourecite it, you will be free from minor and major shirk.” Hazrat Abu Bakr (radhiallaho anho) begged him to tell him. Rasulullah (sallellaho alaihe wasallam) instructed him to say:
اَللّٰهُمَّ اِنِّىْ اَعُوْذُبِكَ اَنْ اُشْرِكَ بِكَ وَاَنَاْ اَعْلَمُ وَاَسْتَغْفِرُكَ لِماَ لَا اَعْلَمُ
“O Allah, I seek protection in You from that I ascribe partners to You knowingly and I seek forgiveness from You for those things which I do not know.” (Kanzul Ummaal vol.2 pg.816)
[urdu version - more readable]
Commentary:
By continuously reciting this Dua, there is guarantee of safety from shirk, and glad tidings of sincerity.
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See this link for Urdu Version
Respect and dignity of a Woman
Beliefs, Short Articles, Spiritual Diseases April 6th, 2010
O how sorrowful! The thing which has been accorded respect by Allâh Ta’ala and Rasulullah (salellaho alaihe wasallam) is considered to be disgraceful by the Muslims of today. Tell me, where does the respect and dignity of a woman lie? Is it in purdah or moving about naked? Does a noble and modest woman want strange men to cast evil glances at her hair and cheeks, and whistle at her?
Real respect lies in a woman offering salâh, keeping fast, serving her husband, bringing up her children, and wearing a burqa‘ when going out of the house. But today, the husband considers it respectful to walk around in the shopping centres with his fashionable wife. He feels embarrassed when his wife wears a burqa‘. What respect is there in others looking at your wife? There is a limit to shamelessness and absence of self-respect. When a person disobeys Allâh Ta’ala, his intellect is also tormented. He thus considers good things to be bad. Allâh Ta’ala refers to this as follows:
أَفَمَنْ زُيِّنَ لَهُ سُوْءُ عَمَلِهِ فَرَاٰهُ حَسَنًا
(سورة فاطر، آية: 8)
Is he to whom the evil of his deeds is made fair-seeming, so that he considers it as good… (Sûrah Fâtir, 35: 8)
In other words, Satan beautifies evil and makes it appealing. Consequently, people start considering evils to be good. For example, women consider non-purdah to be good. As for the women who are pious, who adopt purdah, wear the burqa‘, fear Allâh, perform salâh, and keep fast, it is our duty to respect them and we ask them to supplicate for us. As for the women who walk about without purdah, who display their hair and cheeks, and thereby steal the îmân of the men, we will never respect such women. This is the theme of most of our talks: the hair and cheeks of women who are not in purdah must not destroy the îmân of our young boys.
Do read more @ The Destructive Consequences Of Not Observing Purdah
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گھر میں تصویر لگانے کی حرمت
Beliefs, Urdu March 9th, 2010
Source: Adaab e Ishq e Rasool (S.A.W)
By: Hazrat Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (db)
http://www.khanqah.org/books/show/adaab-e-ishq-e-rasool-saw#9
Dua of 70,000 Angels for You
Beliefs, hadith February 25th, 2010
It has been narrated by Hadhrat Ma’qal Ibn Yasaar that Rasulullah (sallellaho alaihe wasallam) said that one who recites thrice in the morning:
أَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ السَّمِيْعِ الْعَلِيْمِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيْمِ
I seek protection of Allah, the All-Hearing, and All-knowing from shaitaan, the rejected one.
followed by the last three verses of Surah Hasr once, Allah Ta’ala will appoint over him 70,000 angels who will beg for forgiveness (Al-Hashr [59:22])
هُوَ اللَّهُ الَّذِي لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا هُوَ عَالِمُ الْغَيْبِ وَالشَّهَادَةِ هُوَ الرَّحْمَنُ الرَّحِيمُ○ هُوَ اللَّهُ الَّذِي لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا هُوَ الْمَلِكُ الْقُدُّوسُ السَّلَامُ الْمُؤْمِنُ الْمُهَيْمِنُ الْعَزِيزُ الْجَبَّارُ الْمُتَكَبِّرُ سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ عَمَّا يُشْرِكُونَ○ هُوَ اللَّهُ الْخَالِقُ الْبَارِئُ الْمُصَوِّرُ لَهُ الْأَسْمَاء الْحُسْنَى يُسَبِّحُ لَهُ مَا فِي السَّمٰواتِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَهُوَ الْعَزِيزُ الْحَكِيمُُ
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Tags: 70000 angels, dua forgiviness
Customary Weddings
Beliefs, Quotes December 12th, 2009
Following passage is taken from book ‘The Way to Happy Marriage Life” by Hazrat Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (damat barkatuhum)
The next Hadith is:
إِنَّ أَعْظَمَ النِّكَاحِ بَرَكَةً أَيْسَرُهُ مَؤُْنَةً
“The most blessed Nikah is the one in which least expenses are incurred, and is simple.”
Allah Ta’ala has put blessing in simplicity, but nowadays the weddings have to be in halls and thousands of people are invited for meals. Food is served in buffet style, free intermingling of sexes, various types of food is served, music is blaring loudly, photos are taken with the bride being displayed on the stage, if possible then the whole wedding is also put on video etc.
About buffet style eating, Allah Ta’ala states in the Holy Qur’aan,
﴾وَيَأْكُلُونَ كَمَا تَأْكُلُ الْأَنْعَامُ﴿
“They eat like animals,”
This verse was for the Kuffaar. What a pity that the Muslims are now imitating the Kuffaar. Whereas the true benefactor of the Ummat announced fourteen hundred years back, that do not eat and drink while standing,
نَهٰی رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى الله ُعَلَيهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَنِ الاَکْلِ وَالشُّرْبِ قَائِمًا
The Muslims are openly going against this beloved teaching.
Another evil in these weddings is that video films are made of the wedding and certain bearded and so-called pious people often sit and watch all this occur. It is NOT permissible to even sit there. It is Wajib to go away from there immediately.
Any gathering where Allah Ta’ala is disobeyed should be walked out on, even as far as removing the morsel that was in the mouth already. These are evil customs by which the Nikah is deprived of blessings. Attendants in uniform are hired to serve. Some people hire bands to play Haraam music and hire an elephant from the zoo.
The astounding fact is that these people belong to those strata of society who live in shacks and who accept Zakaat. I have seen such people on the occasions of their weddings resorting to such extravagance.
To give Zakaat to such people is Haraam for they have money saved at the bank, which causes them to be excluded from the category of recipients for Zakaat. Do not give your Zakaat to people who make collection of Zakaat a profession. By helping such people one is actually aiding in the commission of Haraam acts. This was with reference to spurious customs innovated by people and which is so called Barakat.
Tags: happy marriage, holy quran, marriage life, marriage video films, nikah
ایک مختصر اِستخارہ
Beliefs, Urdu October 25th, 2009
ارشاد فرمایا کہ آج ایک حدیث کا درس دیتا ہوں، جس کی آئے دن ہم کو ضرور ت پڑتی ہے۔ بعض دفعہ کسی کام کے بارے میں ترَدُّد ہوتا ہے کہ یہ کام کریں یا نہ کریں، حدیث پاک میں ہے ایسے وقت میں استخارہ کرلو، استخارے کا ایک بڑا نفع یہ ہے کہ تَرَدُّدُ بَینَ الاَمرَینِ سے نجات مل جاتی ہے، یعنی دوچیز کا تردد ہوتو ایک چیز دل میں جم جائے گی، لیکن بعض وقت استخارے کے لیے دو رکعت پڑھنے کا وقت نہیں ہوتااور فیصلہ جلدی کرنا ہوتا ہے، تو حکیم الامت مجدد الملت مولانا اشرف علی صاحب تھانوی ہمارے دادا پیر رحمة اللہ علیہ فرماتے ہیں کہ حدیث میں ایک مختصر استخارہ عطا فرمایا گیا ہے۔ فرماتے ہیں کہ مجھے بھی جب جلدی فیصلہ کرنا ہوتا ہے تو میں بھی اس پر عمل کرتا ہوں وہ یہ ہے:
اَللّٰھُمَّ خِر لِی وَ اختَر لِی
(سننُ الترمذی، کتابُ الدعوات)
یعنی اے اللہ! آپ کے علم میں میرے لےے جو کام خیر ہو وہ آپ میرے دل میں ڈال دیجےے۔ اسے سات دفعہ پڑھ لیں۔ جب کوئی فیصلہ جلدی کر نا ہو اور دو رکعت نمازِ استخارہ پڑھنے کے لیے وقت نہ ہو یا کسی کو بے حد ضعف ہے، بیماری ہے، کمزوری محسوس ہورہی ہے، دورکعات پڑھنے اور پھر دعا مانگنے کا وقت نہ ہو تو اس مختصر استخارہ کو پڑھ لے، کوئی کام دماغ میں ہو تو چلتے پھرتے بھی اس کو پڑھ سکتے ہیں۔ استخارہ کے یہ الفاظ حدیث سے ثابت ہیں، جو دعا زبانِ نبوت سے نکلی ہو اس کی قبولیت میں کیاشک ہے۔ ایک بڑے پیارے نے بڑے پیارے کی زبان سے جو دعا اپنے بندوں کو سکھائی وہ کتنی پیاری ہوگی۔
اور استخارہ محتاجِ اشارہ نہیں ہے، نہ کوئی رنگ نظر آنا ضروری ہے، نہ کوئی خواب دیکھنا ضروری ہے، نہ دل میں کوئی آواز آنا ضروری ہے، جو خیر ہوگا وہ دل میں جم جائے گا، آپ اس کے خلاف کرہی نہیں سکتے، آپ مجبور و مقید ہوجائےں گے، مجبورِ خیر ہوجائےں گے۔ یہ ہے اصل چیز۔ بہت سے لوگ سمجھتے ہیں کہ کوئی خواب تو نظر آیا نہیں، نہ کوئی آواز آئی، نہ کوئی ہرا بھرا رنگ نظر آیا، نہ باغات وغیرہ نظر آئے بلکہ اگر بلی یا اُلو وغیرہ نظر آگیا تو سمجھتے ہیں کہ یہ خطر ناک بات ہے، اُلو اور بلی سے استخارہ مت نکالو مثلاً اگر بیٹی کے لیے کوئی اچھا رشتہ آتاہے اور اس میں خوبیاں ہیں، دیندار ہے ،روزی ہے، مکان ہے، سب کچھ دے سکتا ہے، اخلاق بھی اچھے ہیں تو اِستشارہ اور استخارہ دونوں کام کرو، دونوں کام ضروری ہیں، استخارہ بھی کرو اور مشورہ بھی کرو اور مشورہ کے بعد پھر ظاہری حالات جیسے ہوں اس کے مطابق فیصلہ کرو، استخارہ برکت کے لیے کریں، کچھ نظر آئے یا نہ آئے ان شاءاللہ تعالیٰ اللہ تعالیٰ دل اس طرف کردیں گے جس میں خیر ہوگی، اور یہ دعا بھی مانگ لو کہ اے اللہ! آپ کے علم میں ہمارے لیے جو خیر ہو وہی ہمارے دل میں جمادیجئے۔
