Pride Leads One To Anger
Spiritual Diseases January 1st, 2009
Another important point is that an angry person thinks himself to be very great. Pride is hidden in the folds of his anger. When he is angry at someone, his intention is to degrade that person and prove his own greatness. When anger arises in him, look at his face or put a mirror in front of him and tell him to see for himself, or record his angered voice on a tape and let him listen to it.
A human being never realizes his own illnesses, he may say that his anger is for the sake of Allah, but this assumption of his can never be reliable. He should have it tested by a spiritual guide who has far sightedness, and will tell him if his anger is right, but the one who says he is always right, is in fact the wrong one. One who tells his spiritual guide that he does not know anything and that the one who is the target of his anger is such and such, then know that he thinks his spiritual guide to be a fool. Chase such a disciple out of the khanqah (institution of spiritual guidance and reformation) holding him by his ear.
In anger, if you have oppressed someone, never be ashamed to ask forgiveness of him. Please him in this world, otherwise you will be sorry on the day of Qiyamah!
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Forgiving for the Sake Of Allah
Preparation for Death, Spiritual Diseases June 17th, 2008
Hazrat Hakeemul Ummat Mujaddid e Millat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (RA) once mentioned in a lecture that a woman put extra salt in the food by mistake. Her husband thereupon decided this matter with Allah and said: “O Allah! She has made a mistake by making the food salty, so for Your sake I forgive this wife of mine who is your bondswoman. She has a connection with You, therefore I forgive her.” All this he thought in his heart and forgave his wife and did not tell her anything.
After he had passed away, someone saw him in a dream and asked him how he fared? He replied: “Matters were very frightening, great sins of mine were presented, but Allah told me that He forgave me and I am free to go, as one day I forgave His bondswoman (my wife), for making the food too salty.”
How would we like our son-in-law to treat our daughter if she makes a mistake? Would we not like that he should forgive her? When the son-in-law troubles our daughter, we run to buzrug’s for taweez and duas. Similarly, our wives are also someone else’s daughters. Must we not show mercy to them? We argue and fight so much with them that they cry inside and have no one to complain to in the in-law’s house. Their sighs and laments too will surely catch up with you one day!
Source: Treatment of Anger by Hazrat Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Sahab (damat barkatuhum)
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