The Treatment for False Love
Spiritual Diseases November 5th, 2009
A short passage from newly uploaded book: The Destructive Consequences Of Not Observing Purdah
I am now going to show you the treatment for false love. Tell me, if that boy who stopped performing salâh for six months, whose face was gone pale and whose bones were sticking out, had he not come to me, would he not have died? I then showed him the treatment. The illness of false love comes out with much difficulty. It takes a person’s life away, it conveys him to the graveyard. Therefore, everyone must listen attentively. Hakîm ul Ummah Mujaddid ul Millah Maulânâ Ashraf ‘Alî Thânwî rahimahullâh provides one treatment. He says that if your eyes fall on a beautiful woman and love for her is not coming out of the heart, then listen to this treatment for false love, listen to this treatment for removing the love of all apart from Allâh Ta’ala from the heart.
(1) Wear clean clothes, apply perfume, and read Lâ ilâha illallâh 500 times. When you say Lâ ilâha, then imagine that you have completely expelled all the idols which are embedded in your heart. When you say illallâh, then imagine that the light of Allâh Ta’ala has entered your heart, and that this reading of yours has reached the greatest Throne (‘Arsh) and met Allâh Ta’ala.
A Hadîth of Mishkât states that when a servant reads Lâ ilâha illallâh on earth, it traverses the seven heavens and meets Allâh Ta’ala. A narration of Mishkât states:
لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ اللهُ لَيْسَ لَهَا حِجَابٌ دُوْنَ اللهِ
(المشكوة، كتاب الدعوات، ج: 2، ص: 716، المكتب الإسلامي)
There is no barrier preventing Lâ ilâha illallâh reaching Allâh Ta’ala
So if a person gets the inspiration to read Lâ ilâha illallâh he must understand that he has been able to meet Allâh Ta’ala, the Most Affectionate One, through it. Although we are unable to go to Him, this reading of ours is meeting Allâh Ta’ala. Ask the true lovers the value of this.
A poet says:
بس ہے اپنا ایک نالہ بھی اگر پہنچے وہاں
گرچہ کرتے ہیں بہت سے نالہ و فریاد ہم
It is sufficient for just one lamentation of ours to reach there even though we engage in many lamentations and appeals.
Inshâ Allâh, through the blessing of Lâ ilâha illallâh, the appearance of the heart will change within a few days. Even if a person became insane and he was taking Valium 5 and Valium 10 (sleeping pills), he will give up all this and will get sleep through the blessing of the name of Allâh Ta’ala.
جب نہیں دی مجھے حلال کی مے
کیوں پیوں چھپ کے میں حرام کی مے
When I am not given halâl wine, why should I sneak and drink harâm wine?
Those who are not married or their wives are gone sick or old should not spoil their eyes by looking here and there.
So what is the first treatment? Read Lâ ilâha illallâh 500 times and include Muhammadur Rasûlullâh occasionally as well. Inshâ Allâh, through the blessings of this, the heart will be purified of all apart from Allâh Ta’ala, and it will be filled with the love of Allâh Ta’ala. Secondly, think about yourself that you will have to go into the grave one day and the boy or girl whom you love will also have to go into the grave one day. Imagine that the bodies of both have become decomposed and reduced to soil. Now dig up both their graves and ask their soil – the soil of the beloved boy and of the beloved girl – O soil! Where have all your kisses and licks gone to? Where have all those body parts with which you used to commit sins gone to? You departed with curses from this world. A poet says:
نیکواں رفتند و سنت ہا بماند
و از لئیماں ظلم و لعنت ہا بماند
The pious servants have departed from this world, but their ways and habits are remembered. The wretched servants have departed but their sins and immoralities are discussed and curses are being sent to them.
Look at the condition of the film actors. Look at how much evil glances these naked women are inviting towards! All these curses will fall on them as well. The sin of all the deceased who looked at these women who displayed themselves with lust will fall on these women as well.
(3) The third treatment for false love is that you must imagine that the Resurrection is taking place. Allâh Ta’ala is asking you, “Where did you waste your youth? Where did you use your eyes? Did your parents give you these eyes or did I create these eyes in your mother’s womb and placed in them the ability to see?”
These lips of yours will also speak on the day of Resurrection. Allâh Ta’ala says:
اَلْيَوْمَ نَخْتِمُ عَلىٰ أَفْوَاهِهِمْ وَتُكَلِّمُنَا أَيْدِيْهِمْ وَتَشْهَدُ أَرْجُلُهُمْ بِمَا كَانُوْا يَكْسِبُوْنَ
(سورة يٰس، آية: 65)
This Day shall We set a seal on their mouths, and their hands shall speak to Us, and their feet shall bear witness to whatever they used to earn.” (Sûrah Yâ Sîn, 36: 65)
Allâh Ta’ala shall set a seal on your mouths, and your hands and feet shall speak. What will they say? Maulânâ Rûmî rahimahullâh depicts this as follows:
دست گوید من چنیں دُزدیدہ ام
لب بگوید من چنیں بوسیدہ ام
The hand will say: “O Allâh! We used to pick pockets, we used to steal.” The lips will testify: “We used to kiss non-mahram women and young boys.”
Now go to Qunia in Turkey, go to the grave of Maulânâ Rûmî rahimahullâh and say to him that he was also disrespectful towards beauty.
لب بگوید من چنیں بوسیدہ ام
The lips will say: “O Allâh! This wretched person used to kiss non-mahram girls and boys with these lips.”
On the Day of Resurrection you will learn how much of respect and dignity is being accorded to your lips. You will be asked, did you not know:
جو کرتا ہے تو چھپ کے اہلِ جہاں سے
کوئی دیکھتا ہے تجھے آسماں سے
When you do something in privacy away from the people, Someone from the heavens is watching you.
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The Destructiveness of False Love
Spiritual Diseases November 5th, 2009
A short passage from newly uploaded book: The Destructive Consequences Of Not Observing Purdah
Some people tell me that I speak a lot about false love and evil glances. I say to them that if a village is plagued by cholera, what should we worry about, colds and flu, or cholera? Evil glances, open display of beauty, videos, cinemas, film songs, etc. are totally destroying our youth. O you who are sitting in your homes like ducks! What do you know as to what is happening? As long as the desolateness of beauty and the conditions of the graveyard are not explained, the îmân of our youngsters will be destroyed by these women who are parading nakedly everywhere.
I saw a youngster belonging to a noble and distinguished family whose face had gone pale. His cheekbones were sticking out and his eyes were gone hollow. I asked him, “What is happening to you? Are you suffering from tuberculosis?
He replied, “No, one boy showed me a pornographic film. Six months have passed since and I have not performed salâh. I am in an impure state all the time. My thoughts are going to that film all the time. When I am in prostration, the same thoughts come to me. When I perform salâh and go into prostration, that pornographic film comes to my mind.”
Ah! If Akhtar speaks about the destruction of this ummah by speaking a lot about this topic, then some foolish people make this objection that why is this topic dealt with so often? I am also a physical hakîm.
Some weak and frail youngsters constantly come to me and say to me, “I am going to poison myself. I have disgraced myself so much by committing adultery that I have no strength left. I am going to get married soon. Treat me so that I may get back my strength.”
Why did they have to take this poison? I have a poem in this regard:
حسینوں سے جسے پالا پڑا ہے
اسے بس سنکھیا کھانا پڑا ہے
The one who became engrossed with women had to resort to taking poison.
There are two meanings to this:
(1) If a person becomes separated and did not get a woman, he would be overtaken by grief, resort to arsenic (poison) and die.
(2) If he gets his beloved, he had wasted so much of his sexual strength that he became impotent. He now has to resort to taking arsenic.
Therefore, in both situations – attachment (obtaining the beloved) and detachment (separation from the beloved) – he had to take arsenic.
I have so many stories portraying the destructiveness of false love, that if I were to write about the destructiveness of the conflict between beauty and love, the destruction of health, and the desolateness of îmân, it would result in a book of 5000 pages. I have written a concise book titled “The ailments of the soul and their treatment.” It is available from the bookshop. Read this book.
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