The Destructiveness of False Love
Spiritual Diseases November 5th, 2009
A short passage from newly uploaded book: The Destructive Consequences Of Not Observing Purdah
Some people tell me that I speak a lot about false love and evil glances. I say to them that if a village is plagued by cholera, what should we worry about, colds and flu, or cholera? Evil glances, open display of beauty, videos, cinemas, film songs, etc. are totally destroying our youth. O you who are sitting in your homes like ducks! What do you know as to what is happening? As long as the desolateness of beauty and the conditions of the graveyard are not explained, the îmân of our youngsters will be destroyed by these women who are parading nakedly everywhere.
I saw a youngster belonging to a noble and distinguished family whose face had gone pale. His cheekbones were sticking out and his eyes were gone hollow. I asked him, “What is happening to you? Are you suffering from tuberculosis?
He replied, “No, one boy showed me a pornographic film. Six months have passed since and I have not performed salâh. I am in an impure state all the time. My thoughts are going to that film all the time. When I am in prostration, the same thoughts come to me. When I perform salâh and go into prostration, that pornographic film comes to my mind.”
Ah! If Akhtar speaks about the destruction of this ummah by speaking a lot about this topic, then some foolish people make this objection that why is this topic dealt with so often? I am also a physical hakîm.
Some weak and frail youngsters constantly come to me and say to me, “I am going to poison myself. I have disgraced myself so much by committing adultery that I have no strength left. I am going to get married soon. Treat me so that I may get back my strength.”
Why did they have to take this poison? I have a poem in this regard:
حسینوں سے جسے پالا پڑا ہے
اسے بس سنکھیا کھانا پڑا ہے
The one who became engrossed with women had to resort to taking poison.
There are two meanings to this:
(1) If a person becomes separated and did not get a woman, he would be overtaken by grief, resort to arsenic (poison) and die.
(2) If he gets his beloved, he had wasted so much of his sexual strength that he became impotent. He now has to resort to taking arsenic.
Therefore, in both situations – attachment (obtaining the beloved) and detachment (separation from the beloved) – he had to take arsenic.
I have so many stories portraying the destructiveness of false love, that if I were to write about the destructiveness of the conflict between beauty and love, the destruction of health, and the desolateness of îmân, it would result in a book of 5000 pages. I have written a concise book titled “The ailments of the soul and their treatment.” It is available from the bookshop. Read this book.
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An Effective Remedy for Ghaflah
Beliefs, Preparation for Death, Spiritual Diseases November 9th, 2008
* Ghaflah: Being unmindful and heedless of Allah Ta‘ala.
If still the nafs is not rectified and is lazy in performance of Salah and fasting, then one should meditate upon death. One should meditate upon the fact that one day he will be laying in the grave. What answer will one give to Allah Ta’ala at that time?
The person whose heart has become hard and has become habituated to committing sins should meditate upon death for 4 to 5 minutes daily. He should meditate:
“I have just died and after washing and shrouding my life-less body, the people are taking me to the graveyard and burying my lifeless corpse in the grave alone. My wife, children, business and home all have left me, and now, none of these things are of any benefit to me. Only my actions have remained.”
Death is a reality, it is definite, and how can there be any doubt about a thing which is definitely going to occur? Death is such a reality that even the kuffar (disbelievers) do not deny. Has any kafir (disbeliever) said that death will not come?
Therefore, ponder over the reason for us not performing Salah, and not paying the Zakah. What is the reason for us watching T.V. and V.C.R? What is the reason that we are involved in these evil actions? The reason is to pass time and entertain ourselves.
But ponder over the fact that when we are lowered into the grave, what will enter the grave with us? What will we entertain ourselves with then? How many T.V.’s and V.C.R.’s will we take with us? There will be no V.C.R in the grave, rather there will be punishment. Therefore, wake up from this heedlessness and do not entertain yourself with the disobedience of Allah Ta‘ala. That slave who pleases his heart at the cost of displeasing his Master is in total loss.
Just the following statement is sufficient for the guidance of someone, ‘The slave who pleases his own heart (by living a life of disobedience) at the cost of displeasing his Master, is in total loss.’ i.e. at any time the punishment of Allah Ta’ala could descend upon him. Allah Ta’ala is giving us chance after chance in hope that we will rectify ourselves. Nabi (saw) says,
“Remembrance of death is a sufficient lecturer and preacher.”
It is sufficient for guidance. It recharges one’s spiritual battery. One should also sit in pious company. Wherever there is any beneficial Deeni talk, then go there. Look! How far our pious predecessors used to travel to learn Deen!
Source: What is the Reality of Tasawwuf
