The one who casts evil glances is cursed by Nabi ﷺ. Nabi ﷺ says in a Hadith mentioned in Mishkaat Shareef:
لعن اللہ الناظر والمنظور الیھ
“May the curse of Allah be upon the one who casts evil glances and upon the one who presents him/herself to be looked at.” (Mishkaat; Pg. 270)
If casting evil glances was a minor sin, then Nabi ﷺ, being a mercy to mankind would not have cursed its perpetrator. The curse of Nabi ﷺ is clear proof that this is a very despicable crime. The meaning of curse is to become distant from the mercy of Allah. Imam Raghib Isfahani mentions in Mufradaatul Qur’aan that the definition of لعنة (curse) is:
البعد عن الرحمة
“To become distant from mercy.”
Thus, he who has become distant from the mercy of Allah Ta’ala, cannot gain salvation from the evils of his Nafs. Only he who is under the shade of Allah’s mercy can attain salvation from the evils of the Nafs. Allah Ta’ala says:
ان النفس لامارة بالسوء
The Nafs abundantly commands evil.”
(Sura Yousuf; Ayat 53, Juz 13)
So how is it possible to be saved from the evils of Nafs? Allah Ta’ala further says:
الا مار حم ربی
“Except by the mercy of my Lord.”
From this, we understand that the only way to be saved from the evils of the Nafs is to come under the shade of Allah’s mercy. Allah Ta’ala who is the Creator of this Nafs Himself has proclaimed that those who are in His mercy will be saved. Therefore, the one who has come under the shade of الا مارحم ربی his Nafs did not remain امارة بالسوء (excessively commanding evil) rather it became امارة بالخیر (abundantly commanding good). This is why after the command of guarding the eyes, یغضوا من ابصارھم , Allah Ta’ala mentions, ویحفظوا فروجھم “Guard the private parts.” Because through the blessings of fulfilling the divine command of Allah Ta’ala and saving oneself from the curse of Nabi ﷺ one comes under the shade of Allah’s mercy. Now his private parts will also be safeguarded. Form this we conclude that the reward of guarding the eyes is that the private parts become safeguarded. On the contrary, if a person does not guard his eyes then he cannot guard his private parts either and curses which descends upon him is a separate punishment on its own.
More Reading: The 14 Harms Of Casting Evil Glances
There are four actions which if one adopts, Insha Allah, he will become a wali (friend of Allah) before he passes away. With the barakah of practicing these four actions, Insha Allah, he will gain the ability to practice all the other commandments of deen. This is because generally people find these actions to be hard on the nafs. Like the student who manages to answer the difficult questions on a test will have no problem answering the easy ones. So, the one who suppresses his nafs for the pleasure of Allah and carries out these actions, practicing deen will become easy for him, and he will die as a Wali (friend) of Allah.
It’s just one time effort to learn Correct Pronunciation and Recitation of The Qur’aan Majeed. After that there are 4 actions.
1. To adopt the appearance of Ambiya (alaihis salaam), that is to grow the beard equal to one fist in length from all three sides
2. To keep one’s clothes above the ankles in two conditions when walking and when standing. (This ruling applies to men. Women should cover their ankles)
3. To protect the eyes from casting lustful glances (from women and handsome young boys)
4. To guard the Heart from entertaining evil thoughts
1. Shara’i Hijab (PARDAH)
2. Fulfilling the Rights of their Husband
3. To Protect the Eyes from non mahram male
4. To guard the heart from entertaining evil thoughts
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Beliefs, Preparation for Death, Spiritual Diseases November 9th, 2008
* Ghaflah: Being unmindful and heedless of Allah Ta‘ala.
If still the nafs is not rectified and is lazy in performance of Salah and fasting, then one should meditate upon death. One should meditate upon the fact that one day he will be laying in the grave. What answer will one give to Allah Ta’ala at that time?
The person whose heart has become hard and has become habituated to committing sins should meditate upon death for 4 to 5 minutes daily. He should meditate:
“I have just died and after washing and shrouding my life-less body, the people are taking me to the graveyard and burying my lifeless corpse in the grave alone. My wife, children, business and home all have left me, and now, none of these things are of any benefit to me. Only my actions have remained.”
Death is a reality, it is definite, and how can there be any doubt about a thing which is definitely going to occur? Death is such a reality that even the kuffar (disbelievers) do not deny. Has any kafir (disbeliever) said that death will not come?
Therefore, ponder over the reason for us not performing Salah, and not paying the Zakah. What is the reason for us watching T.V. and V.C.R? What is the reason that we are involved in these evil actions? The reason is to pass time and entertain ourselves.
But ponder over the fact that when we are lowered into the grave, what will enter the grave with us? What will we entertain ourselves with then? How many T.V.’s and V.C.R.’s will we take with us? There will be no V.C.R in the grave, rather there will be punishment. Therefore, wake up from this heedlessness and do not entertain yourself with the disobedience of Allah Ta‘ala. That slave who pleases his heart at the cost of displeasing his Master is in total loss.
Just the following statement is sufficient for the guidance of someone, ‘The slave who pleases his own heart (by living a life of disobedience) at the cost of displeasing his Master, is in total loss.’ i.e. at any time the punishment of Allah Ta’ala could descend upon him. Allah Ta’ala is giving us chance after chance in hope that we will rectify ourselves. Nabi (saw) says,
“Remembrance of death is a sufficient lecturer and preacher.”
It is sufficient for guidance. It recharges one’s spiritual battery. One should also sit in pious company. Wherever there is any beneficial Deeni talk, then go there. Look! How far our pious predecessors used to travel to learn Deen!
Source: What is the Reality of Tasawwuf
1. One should safe guard one’s gaze. In other words do not look at any man or woman with lustful gazes. People from all around the world are present at the Holy Sanctuaries of the Harmain Sharifain. Therefore, one should always be alert and on one’s guard not to glance at any ghair-mahram even from the corner of one’s eyes.
While leaving home, one should leave with this firm intension that, “I will not cast evil glances at anyone”. Over and over again one should renew this intension in one’s heart or else the Nafs will involve one in casting evil glances.
2. One should safeguard one’s heart. Meaning one should not entertain evil thoughts in the heart. Neither should one derive unlawful pleasure from fantasizing about unlawful beauties. Similarly, one should not recall and reminisce past sins and derive pleasure there from. If, however, evil thoughts do come into the heart and mind then one should remember one important point:
IF THOUGHTS COME ON THEIR OWN, THEN THERE IS NO SIN IN THIS, HOWEVER, IF ONE INTENTIONALLY FANTACIZES AND BRING EVIL THOUGHT INTO THE HEART THEN THIS IS A SIN. OCCUPYING ONE SELF IN EVIL THOUGHTS AND FANTACIES IS A SIN.
3. Physically, one should not come close to ghair-mahram or handsome young lads (such lads who are beardless and one is sexually attracted to them).
4. One should abstain from unnecessary conversation. Bust oneself with useful and beneficial activities such as Tawaaf, Tilawat, Durood Shareef. If one feel tired them one should look at the Ka’aba Shareef. (This is also an ibaadat and means of attaining spiritual reward)
5. One should not debate over controversial issues neither should one get in unnecessary arguments.
6. During Tawaaf one should not look at the Ka’aba Shareef. When addressing the King, it is disrespectful to stare at him.
7. If one’s glances unintentionally falls upon a ghair-mahram woman and the heart becomes attracted to her the meditate upon the fact that she is a guest of Allah Ta’ala and due to this she is more worthy of respect then one’s own mother. If one’s gaze unintentionally falls upon her in Madina Munawwarah then meditate that she is the guest of Allah Ta’ala as well as the guest of Rasulullah (). Similarly if one’s gaze unintentionally falls upon a young lad and the heart become attracted towards him then one should meditate that he is more worthy of respect than even your father. This is because in Makkah Mukarramah, those who are there are the special guests of Allah Ta’ala and in Madina Munawwarah they are the special guests of Allah Ta’ala as well as Rasulullah ().
8. If one becomes inconvenienced in any way in the Harmain Shareefain then one should never complain. Imagine that those are in Haramain are princes and royalty. All they have to do is perform one Tawaaf and ask for forgiveness from Allah Ta’ala. We are not even equal to the dust which settles upon their feet.
9. If the food is not to one’s liking then one should not complain about it. One person had complained saying, “The yogurt of Madina Munawwarah is too sour, whereas the yogurt of India is sweet”. He saw Rasulullah () in this dream telling him to immediately leave Madina. One should perceive everything of Haramain with the eye of respect, reverence and love. One should not find faults.
10. One should consider himself a servant and not one who deserves to be served. One should be a means of giving comfort to others and consider serving them one’s honor.
11. When the gaze falls upon Ka’aba Shareef for the first time, then one should ask Allah Ta’ala to grant you His Sublime being. Ask Allah Ta’ala to grant you Himself. Supplicate Allah Ta’ala saying: “O Allah Ta’ala! I am unworthy and undeserving but You are Kareem, You are One who grants even the unworthy”.
12. If anyone happens to see a dream then one should not mention it to anyone other than one’s Shaikh. If one’s Shaikh is not there then one should mention it to a caring friend who has understanding of Deen. One should not mention one’s dream to just anybody.
May Allah Ta’ala grant us all the ability to practice upon the above-mentioned guidelines.
Source: Guidelines for those performing Hajj and Umrah by Hazrat Wala ()
Our beloved shaykh and spiritual guide, the Knower of Allah, Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Sahib (DB) has given replies and remedies to every spiritual disease and in particular the epidemic of our times; lustful glances and infatuations and its’ evil effects. Hazrat (DB) has given such rare pearls of wisdom regarding this destructful disease which are not to be found and are unprecedented in the history of Tasawwuf.
The reason behind this is that this problem was not as widespread before as it is now. The work being taken from Hazrat in this field is without doubt the work that Allah takes from a reviver of the century. The reason being, that the concept of lowering the gaze has been so overlooked that people do not even consider lustful glances to be a sin anymore. Hazrat has taken this task upon himself to alert and inform the Ummah of its harms.
It is for this very reason that senior scholars acknowledge that Hazrat is the reviver of guarding the gaze and the reviver of tasawwuf for this century. This statement is not yours or mine, but I have heard this from senior scholars of Pakistan, Bangladesh, India, England, South Africa and many others. Hazrat (DB)’s own achievements prove that he is the reviver of the 15th century. Also, the depth and detail by which Hazrat has explained the tricks and treacherous tactics of the nafs in regards to illicit infatuations and lustful glances and its cures and remedies, is not even found in the works of our pious predecessors because this is the epidemic of our times. Allah has, is, and Insha Allah will continue to benefit the Ummah through Hazrat (DB)’s work in this field. May Allah prolong Hazrat (DB)’s shadow of benefit over us continue his blessing till the Day of Judgment. Aameen!
The book which can be downloaded from the Khanqah’s website is a published version of what has been gathered from Al-Abrar with the same name. I pray that Allah accept this work from the compilers, and anyone who has contributed in any way, shape or form. Aameen!